Bishop Bena August 2018
HOW DO I ANSWER?
Bishop Dave Bena
So, friends, I am on the horns of a dilemma. Let me explain.
A school chum from high school has recently come to a vibrant faith in Jesus. He is attending an Episcopal parish in a distant diocese. Being a retired police officer, he has begun participation in Kairos, a ministry to the incarcerated. I have encouraged him in this, even though I am hesitant about his attendance in a very liberal parish. My friend has struggled with his church's full acceptance of the gay lifestyle, believing that the biblical view of sexual encounter is to be between a male and female in marriage. Slowly,I notice, he has begun to change his attitude. He notes that the senior warden is an active gay man "who is a very nice and decent person." Last week, he wrote that maybe God is calling him to love gay people. "After all, we accept divorce without judgement. Why not accept those locked into homosexual relationships?"
How do I respond to my friend without driving him away from Christianity? He respects me and my position, and is openly stating his ambivalence. Do I say, "Yes, accept gay people but don't accept their lifestyle," Or do I say, "Yes, love gays and accept their lifestyle," Or do I say, "Get out of that apostate church - they're bit by bit corrupting you," Or do I give him an excellent book, The Bible and Homosexual Practice by Dr Robert Gagnon and let him figure it out by himself?
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